Please Do Not Disturb The Bride
Life has been pretty busy since my last post. Work, travel, election, more work - so many distractions come up in daily life. And, it doesn't stop when you're planning a wedding! In this post, let's discuss how to eliminate distractions on your wedding day so that you can focus on enjoying every moment and delightful detail.
Do Not Disturb On Your Wedding Day
"...the most important part is that the bride and groom, their family, and their friends have a stress-free and seamless day!" said the ladies from Event M.D. in our recent interview. On your wedding day, it is so easy to get caught up in making sure that everything you have spent weeks and months pouring over will go exactly how you have planned. But, now that the day is here...
Let it go.
*breaks out into song*
Seriously though. The most important piece of advice I can offer is to let go of the worry and stress over whether everything goes right. I promise that at least one thing, if not numerous things, will go wrong on your wedding day.
Like I've said before, weddings are events. The best laid plans for any event are always flexible and fluid to adjust for problems. And, there are always problems. If you can establish this fact in your mind before your wedding day, you will be able to let things roll off your back when (not if) it happens.
Expect the Unexpected
In the weeks leading up to my wedding, I told myself "something is going to go wrong, and it's fine because we will be married." Things went wrong (I'll save the details for another post), and when they did, I was fine. My friends recount my wedding day as if they were on pins and needles just waiting for me to have a bridezilla moment. That moment never came. Because I was prepared for the unanticipated problems and rolled with the punches on my wedding day. Too bad I haven't been able to carry that over into my everyday-Type-A life!
So how can you prepare for those unanticipated problems? Expect the unexpected. Always have a plan B and make sure others know what it is. Tell your family, maid of honor, best man, day of coordinator, venue coordinator, caterer, and anyone who will listen. The more people who know what to do in case of a problem, the quicker it will be attended to and you may not even know about it. The key behind a stress-free wedding day is to make sure that the bride (and groom) are not disturbed.
Delegating with Authority
For all of the events I've managed, I create a notebook that includes all of the details and plans. From copies of the contracts to layout maps and rain plans, this three-ring binder includes everything I know about the event that someone else would need to know in the case of an event emergency.
You should prepare the same information for your wedding day - hard copy and electronic - and give it to multiple people. This information will allow someone on your wedding execution team to determine the best solution without bothering you. You should also establish who should be consulted about these decisions instead of the bride and groom, for example the mother of the bride or best man. Remember, you shouldn't be the person answering questions on your wedding day so that you can sit back and soak up all of the experiences.
Call Anyone But The Bride
Speaking of questions. There's always that one friend or family member who lost their wedding invitation and can't remember the address of the ceremony location. Or the bridesmaid who forget to look at the wedding day timeline and doesn't know what time her hair appointment is.
You should not be answering these questions.
In fact, you should plan on giving your cell phone to your maid of honor (best man for the groom) to answer texts and phone calls that come your way on your wedding day. They can also take photos for you to remember the candid moments (that may not be captured by your photographer) throughout the day.
Another way to ensure that questions are directed to someone other than the bride and groom is to share phone numbers for the family and wedding party in advance of the wedding day. A simple emergency contact card can be given to your wedding planner or emailed to guests in advance. Bonus to the couple who prints and includes these cards in the guest welcome bags.
Throughout the planning process, many of your friends and family may have offered their help. If you haven't already, take them up on their offer! They love you, and they want to help. The more help you have on your wedding day, the less likely you will need to deal with issues that arise.
Communicating up front what you want and how they can help will ensure that your plans will be carried out as you would like. Also, keep in mind that members of your wedding party should be enjoying the day with you. So be cautious about what you ask them to do to help on your wedding day.
Regardless of what issues arise, just remember - it's fine. Don't sweat the small stuff - even if you are a Type A bride, like me. At the end of the day, you will be married to the love of your life with memories to cherish for a lifetime.
Tell me what you're worried about going wrong in the comments. Let's come up with a Plan B together!